The BreakUp

Breaking up with the person you want to spend the rest of you're life is like living with no air. Memories keep flooding and burning you. Even the tiniest piece would made you cry. Even the happiest party song would make you mad. And even places would imprisoned you. 

The transition is the worst stage of letting go. We tend to fight for the one we love, even if that person kept on dumping us. Talking mad and taking it back. The unusual attention was doubled or tripled but no attention was taken back. Throwing ourselves on the bed, tears drippin and moanin like someone died. 

The "what if" i did this, "what if" i didn't keep running through you're mind. What have I done wrong? What did I miss? Why did he/she left? Why why why? 

That crazy love songs is killing you. Singing to that Taylor Swift song of "We're never getting back together" with a heavy heart. Started to collect some quotable breakup quotes to post on facebook and twitter. Acting strong in front of everyone when alone you're not but a wet kitten waiting for a hug.

When in reality, during upbringing years our parents kept on saying that WE CAN'T ALWAYS HAVE WHAT WE WANTED.

Here are some 10 tips I found online on how to fall out of love: (Trust me its useful!)

1. Make a list of all the reasons it wasn't meant to be.

2. See their faults. Nobody is perfect. 

3. Think of what you want from a significant other that you didn't get from this person.

4. Ask yourself if it was really true love you were feeling for this person.

5. Remove as many traces of their presence in your life as you can.

6. Distance yourself.

7. Practice thought stopping, a technique that helps you to become more mindful and in control of what you think (or don't want to think about, as the case may be.

8. Do all the things you've ever wanted to do, that you wouldn't have done if you were still with this person. 

9. Mingle. While you are distancing yourself from said object of affection, try to meet new people who share similar interests.

10. Understand that the feelings may never fade completely. You felt close to this person at one point in your life, and while you can eventually realize emotionally that you've grown apart, you will probably always have a soft spot for him or her. At some point, it may be possible to remain friends, but mind the boundaries and don't let your heart fall back into it.

No matter how hard it is. Always think positive. 

Let God be in-charge.

Fave quotes from "The Witch of Portobello" by Paulo Coelho

“What is a teacher? I'll tell you: it isn't someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows.” 

“After all, what is happiness? Love, they tell me. But love doesn't bring and never has brought happiness. On the contrary, it's a constant state of anxiety, a battlefield; it's sleepless nights, asking ourselves all the time if we're doing the right thing. Real love is composed of ecstasy and agony.” 

“Reason lost the battle, and all I could do was surrender and accept I was in love.”

“You are what you believe yourself to be” 

“Because all my life I've learned to suffer in silence - Athena” 

“You are what you believe yourself to be” 

“No one can manipulate anyone else. In any relationship, both parties know what they're doing. even if one complains later on that they were used.” 

“when mouths close, it’s becausethere’s something important to be said.” 

“I've noticed that loneliness gets stronger when we try to face it down, but gets weaker when we simply ignore it.” 

“All we have to do is understand that we're all here for a reason and to commit ourselves to that. Then we can laugh at our sufferings, large and small and walk fearlessly, aware that each step has meaning” 

“I've always been a very restless person. I work hard, spend too much time looking after my son, I dance like a mad thing, I learned calligraphy. I go to courses on selling, I read one book after another. But that's all a way of avoiding those moments when nothing is happening, because those blank spaces give me a feeling of absolute emptiness, in which not a single crumb of love exists.” 

“Joy is like sex – it begins and ends. I want pleasure. I want to be contended, but happiness? I no longer fall into that trap.